"..You think like a man. But flirt like a girl. You're a killer."

lol Ahhh, this quote cracks me up whenever me up whenever I think about it. The gentleman who told me this, said that I'm one of the most complicated and analytical women that he's ever had the pleasure of meeting. I don't know if I think like a man, or that I even know how to flirt. The jury is still out on the killer part, my sudden bursts of rage every now and then on the highway surprises even me some times.

This gentleman has told to me that I'm just too rational at times and that sometimes that catches men off guard. Because men are use to being the rescuer, the problem solver, the "day saver" if you will. So he said, that I make a man's job harder by not needing anyone to rescue me. He said a man would have to work twice as hard to impress me, but that's a good thing because most men by the time they reach his age have been spoiled by women who are easily impressed and wooed. I've never dated a woman, and really have no desire to so I don't know what "other women" are like. I only know them by what I read, who I listen to, and people I know. Gathering what I know, I would say that most women tend to be more emotional than myself, my mother and sister included. That's not to say I don't cry, or lack normal human compassion, it's just that whenever I do find myself getting overly emotional about something where it makes decision making difficult - I usually force myself to step back and weigh the pros and cons of the situation and whether or not it would be beneficial or futile for me to feel a certain way. I'm not saying this always work, but for the most part it does because it often upsets me when I'm not able to reach a decision.

Of course I have heard mixed opinions about my approach. So I will say this, the decisions that I have made based on my approach - I've never regretted (maybe years from now I will feel differently but I doubt it). The few times I have regretted something was when I let others swayed me. I've learned a while ago that it's best to go with my gut instincts and often times my six sense trumps my emotions and things have worked out very nicely so far. Yes I have heard raps from others about this, but I still have friends and those people are still talking to me and despite my face and my sick sense of humor some men actually find me attractive and appealing. Ha! Suckers! If they only knew! =D

I wouldn't say I have more guy friends than girl friends, I think I have an even amount...all 3 of them. So I will say this, I don't know where I got this, perhaps it was from hours of talking to my dad over mafia movies when I was little, or perhaps it was being "the girl a few doors over" when I was younger that lead me to have this sort of understandng, even appreciation, for how some guys think.Was I peeved at some of it? You bet your ass I was! But as I got older, I realized that in most situations people make the best decision that they are able to with the options that they. I realize that what are considered options to some people may not be options to others. But that's just how the world works, I've learned to acknowledged it, acceppted it and have moved on. I"m old enough to know that men and women are innately different -of course some would beg to differ, that's okay I think being a bit retarded is cute sometimes. From what I have observed, men tend to be a bit less complicated than women. Yes, really does mean yes. And no really does mean no to a guy! And "maybe" is new territory all together. Men don't beat around the bush, they just beat it, unlike women.

With that said, I do notice that it takes a guy a while before he realizes what some women are really like. Of course, being the person that I am, I always try to key the guys in on the girls/women that they're seeing based on what he tells me and what I know about the person. Sometimes the guys say that they're thinking the same thing and just needed some reenforcement, and other times (often the younger ones) would say that I'm being too cynical or straight forward. Now, being as "rational" as I've been told I am, I'm still a girl...so I could just be talking out of my asymptote when I give these guys advice. Who knows!

I don't fault guys for thinking or feeling the way they do, hell I feel the same way on most issues so who am I to judge!? So to all the guys reading this: Cheers!

Now with flirting, I don't know if I flirt...what is flirting anyway? I guess that question should belong in its own blog. But since I'm on a roll I might as well rape that topic now. I went as far as looking up the definitons and here they are " To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures"..and..well you check out wikipedia's definition, it's quite amusing. What does a girl flirt like? And what does a guy flirt like? I know there are differencs but can't pinpoint what. All suggestions, inquiries, definitons, are welcome at this point.


Once again I don't know what it's like to date me, so I couldn't tell you if I fit the description. But then again knowing me, I probably have my own category of flirting anyway, one that comes equipped with crayons and Chanel.